I get lots of questions from people asking “how do I start the adoption process?” So I thought I would write the advice that I share. Other than LOTS of prayer, I suggest…
- Decide on international or domestic adoption. I would suggest lots of prayer on this one! Please know that Either choice is the right choice. Children from all over our country and all over the world need a loving home.
- Choose an adoption agency. My opinion, this is the most important step. Your adoption agency is the link between you and your child. For me, communication was key. I emailed several agencies to inquire about their services and some took weeks to write back. No thanks! You want an agency that’s quick to respond during this process. We loved Holt International.
- Find a lawyer. Obviously you’re going to need someone to handle the legal side of adoption. We did not need one as much for international (it’s pretty cut and dry, especially in China), but domestic adoptions can sometimes get complicated.
- Research and ask people. I love when people contact me wanting to know it all. The good, the bad, the ugly. Adoption is hard, exhausting, draining, overwhelming, and so much more… but it’s also the best decision we’ve ever made. Read books, go to conferences, do all of your research!
- Start a Notebook. I blogged about this here. You’ll need something to keep all of your paperwork and copies in order. Starting this notebook was one of the best pieces of advice ever given to me, and I’m so thankful I did.
Most importantly, you’ll need a support system. There are a lot of groups on Facebook where you can join, ask questions, and get support from people going through the exact same thing. I really benefited from being in a China adoption travel group where we could keep up with each others timelines and talk about our travel plans.
As always, if you ever need anything please reach out to me! I’d be happy to answer any questions that you need.