A month has already flown by! I can’t believe one month ago we were in a conference room in China meeting our daughter for the first time. To think that we barely made the July trip or else we would’ve had to wait until this month. I’m SO glad we made that July trip! The Lord knew she needed to be with her family sooner. Adoption is hard. It’s overwhelming, it’s expensive, and it’s an emotional roller coaster… but it’s SO worth it. It’s a God thing, literally! We were all adopted.
People ask how we feel about it all and I can’t describe it. There are no words. I try to think back on what life was like before her and I can’t remember. It’s like she has always been a part of us. She fits in so well! Adoption rocks!!! We’re so thankful that out of everyone God chose us to be her parents!
So how is she doing? I saw another mom do this on a blog I follow so I thought I would do the same but with my own twist…
Attachment: When we first got home I was worried, and still am, about attachment. Everything you read about adoption tells you that this is critical. It broke my heart that she would so openly go to anyone (like at the airport homecoming). She shouldn’t be doing that. Right now, she should only want her momma and baba. It was hard for me to grasp that she’s always had people in and out of her life, and that she might not understand that we are here to stay. Forever. She can stick with us. So I wrote a blog post in hopes it would help people understand why we aren’t around or why they shouldn’t be reaching for her. We’re still working on her being attached to only us. I know it will take time, and every day I see that it’s getting better.
Language: She still speaks a lot of Mandarin, but she is picking up English pretty quickly. She understands things we say to her, and answers all of our questions. She is SO smart! She can count from 1-10 and is learning her ABC’s. Right now we are working on forming better sentences. She is starting to call herself by the name we gave her, but sometimes uses her Chinese name. Yesterday I gave her two options as a snack and she didn’t want either. Clear as day she said “applesauce”! I couldn’t believe it. That’s not even a word we’ve been teaching her. She’s just overheard us talk about it, and picked up on it. She loves to talk, and we love listening ;
Sleeping: Once we got over the jet lag, she started sleeping pretty well! She takes daily naps for about a hour, and pretty much sleeps through the night. Every now and then she will wake up in the middle of the night and pat us on the back or leg. It’s like she is making sure we are there. She currently sleeps with us and we wouldn’t have it any other way! Soon enough we will move her to her room, we just don’t feel she is ready yet. She LOVES her room and I know we will have no trouble with this transition when it’s time.
Food: She loves pretty much anything! Fruit is her favorite. Bananas are a must. She loves veggies. She isn’t a huge fan of bread or fried stuff. She has no problem with eating and no problem letting you know when she is full. I’m so thankful for this because so many times you hear otherwise with children from orphanages. It’s usually “eat all the food you can or someone else will eat it for you”!
Physical Development: She is definitely small for her age, but is growing and gaining weight. With the help of her step stool she can now get to the sink and her bed on her own. She’s learned how to climb up on the couch, and climb in and out of her car seat on her own. She IS potty trained (thank ya Jesus), but of course needs help every now and then. She is learning new skills every day and we’re very proud of her. We’re amazed at all she can do considering we’ve only been home a few short weeks!
Medical Need: Many people have asked about her special need since many children adopted from China have special needs. She doesn’t have a special need, but she does have a medical condition. It’s not a minor condition either, more major actually. She’s already had one surgery in China, and will need another at some point in the near future. It’s not something we’ve openly shared yet and I’m not sure when we will. Eventually I will share it to show awareness, but I don’t want her to be defined by it just like I don’t want her defined by adoption. She’s SO much more than either of those things, and she’s a miracle! She’s doing great right now and that’s all that matters to us!
Below is the day she was placed in our arms. WOW. I can’t believe how different she looks now. It’s amazing what LOVE can do to a person. I’m not saying she wasn’t loved in her orphanage, but she wasn’t shown the attention and love of parents. What once was a scared little girl with a fever and quiet demeaner, is now a blooming, sassy, smart, humorous girl that puts smiles on the faces of everyone she meets. She is such a LIGHT. We love our little Sweet P…
And we’re obsessed with these sneak peeks from our good friend Kayla with Kayla F Photography of our first ever family session! Look at this first one, she is striking a pose!!! #model
We are so blessed this girl is ours!!! Thank you everyone for the continued love and support! <3